vendredi 5 juin 2015

Taking Anxiety For A Ride

By Evan Sanders


Have you ever actually listened to somebody define anxiety in such a way that would modify it completely?

I'll never forget sitting in class and having my master coach say to everyone, "Now a large amount of things are going to change in your life, and this can bring up some agitation, but just think about anxiety as new things happening. "

Woah.

New things occuring? I haven't ever thought of it like that before. When we get down to define anxiety in a firm sense, it's a honest feeling of worry or uneasiness about a situation that truly has a modest amount of fear surrounding it. What could happen next? What will the result be? In a way, anxiety is a fantastic indicator of forward thinking or "row boat thinking," a phrase I have recently coined.

What's the thought behind "row boat thinking?"

We are supplied with a interesting story throughout our lives that sounds a lot like this..."I'll be cheerful when this happens. It'll all turn out when I get there. " The issue is, we are rowing toward this island that actually does not exist. We think it's there, but it really is one of the finest made mirages we have ever seen. It's attractive. It's captivating. It's just enough to keep us grasping and thirsting for more. But there's great danger in this type of thinking meanging that anxiousness can be our honest indicator that we are basically caught in the activity of doing it in the first place.

Living in the future can have as many negative side effects as living deep in the past. Everyone knows what it's like to need to flee our past, but I am going to hazard to say that we should avoid living in the future almost just as much. We will get stuck in a place, a particularly unsure place, that honestly is beyond our control. Should you set goals and have a vision for what you desire out of your life? Positively. But the danger is building the foundation of your true happiness on such a place.

The one guarantee I can make you about this life is that it'll change. You cannot go to the past, the present is subject to change at any moment and the future is to be decided.

So what can we do?

That uncertainty...love it. Embrace the hell out of it. The doubtful places in your life are opportunities to have nothing short than magic occur. Do you actually know what is going to occur? Of course not. Will you try to project as much as practicable? Yes, we've all done that haven't we? But when you start coming back to the present time, over and over again because our minds never stop getting distracted, you get to completely be here. Here really is a excellent spot to be. Start basically seeing what is happening around you rather than hiding and spending so much time distracting yourself from everything that's not right here and now.

So all anxiety truly is, when it boils down to it, is new things happening. Enjoy that feeling and sit with it. Basically spend a little bit of time to really feel the anxiety in your belly and then take a second to start to comprehend why it's coming up. "In this moment, what is the thing that's taking place now that is new?" When you begin to do that, well, things become lots more fun. But when you stop living in times to come the uneasiness disipates and begins to vanish altogether.

It is all about how we define anxiety to start with.




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